David Kamau asked:


Alternative lifestyle can be defined as a mode of living or doing something in a way that is not within the accepted norms or values. Adult alternative lifestyle is simply an unusual sexual lifestyle.

Some activities considered adult alternative lifestyles include:

1. BDSM: This stands for ******* and Discipline (B&D), Domination and Submission (D&S), and Sado-Masochism (S&M). As the definition suggests, **** involves bondage, that is restraining or being restrained, domination as well as submission, ****** (taking pleasure in inflicting pain on another person) and ********* (taking pleasure in being subjected to a certain degree of pain).

2. Swinging: This can be defined as a form of recreational social and sexual activity between consenting adults whereby partner swapping is acceptable. Swinging is also referred to as “wife swapping”, but this definition is inaccurate as it narrows down the activity and makes it look like a male domain. “Partner swapping” may be a simpler but more accurate description.

3. Sexual Fetishism: The arousal and/or gratification through some object, or non-genital part of the body. Such object or body part is referred to as the ******. ******** include but are not limited to shoes (boots or high-hills), feet or digits of the foot, hair, underclothes or lingerie, body piercing, clothing (size, garment-type or size), stockings, etc.

4. Polyamory: This is the practice of having more than one intimate relationship at a time, with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. In polyamory there is no partner swapping, as opposed to swinging where swapping is the norm. Polyamorous relationships are usually serious and long term.

Why do people pursue adult alternative lifestyles and relationships? The answers are as many as the individuals. But one that tends to go across the board is- you guessed it- fun. Another reason is fulfillment of sexual fantasies.

There are many more forms and variations of sexual alternative lifestyles than can fit in this article, as well as sub-groupings of the same. For example, ******* as in the B in **** can be considered as a lifestyle on its own.

It is not uncommon for alternative lifestyles to overlap. For example, at a swinger’s party (an alternative lifestyle), one person may be getting a body part pierced (a fetish), a man may be receiving a ******** while restrained in chains (BDSM) from a woman in leather garments and boots (dress or shoe fetish), while a polyamorous trio (an alternative lifestyle) may be joined by another couple for a sexual activity.

Thinking of exploring your alternative, fantasy or ******? There are dating sites specifically dedicated to adult alternative lifestyle, where people of like interests get to meet.



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Dennis Harting asked:


It is always interesting to watch how society attempts to make people conform. Social conditioning is one of the most powerful motivators we encounter. The fact that most of it occurs without our knowledge is what makes it so effective. People will fight to defend their beliefs without even being aware of where those ideas came from. Unfortunately, the majority of us are nothing more than “products of our environment”. We rarely become something that we consciously chose. Rather, those who we spent the most time with influenced us into believing what we do.

When it comes to relationships and sex, society is clear on what it’s belief is. Heterosexual marriage is the accepted model. This is the best way to maintain order while ensuring the reproduction of the “village”. People who enter this state end up raising a family which carries the population forward. Also, married couples provide an overall stability to the community. They tend to settle down in an area while establishing some roots. The focus often shifts away from individual fulfillment to that of the family. It is a wonderful concept and appropriate in most situations.

However, there are a large number of people who are not designed for this lifestyle. Yet society fails to deliver the message that it is alright for one to find a lifestyle that is suitable to him or her. Many believe that if someone is not of this mold, then there must be something wrong. Yet, there are many different lifestyles for people to choose from. Of course, there is the choice of staying single. For a lot of people, this is the ideal way to live life. Some people are ********** or bisexual. Their preference strays a bit from the norm. Then there are those who prefer the “swinging” lifestyle. Monogamy is not something that works for them. These are just a few of the choices people can make when deciding what they want in life.

Part of living a rich life is making the choices that make you happy. Too many people allow others to make the decisions for them and wonder why they are not fulfilled. You are the only one who has to live your life. It is imperative that you select those things that coincide with your true nature.

Attempting to live a lifestyle that is not true to us will result in failure. We have heard of the man who leaves his wife for another man. He comes “out of the closet”. Afterwards, people wonder why he would do such a thing. The answer is that he simply was trying to live a lifestyle that did not fit him. Certainly he may not have known his sexual preference when he got married. Nevertheless, the pressures of our culture deter the investigation into what fits this individual. He was trained from a young age that he should get married and raise a family. That is the conditioning of society.

Naturally, this is not to imply that there is anything wrong with marriage or family. The point is that basically they are not for everyone. However, the judgments of others is another powerful weapon. People who fail to obey the cultural norm are belittled. For example, what is the opinion of people who engage in group ***. The majority of society looks down upon those people. They call them all kinds of names. Individuals who claim to be “open-minded” judge the daylights out of these people. Since they do not fit into the proper model, weapons are brought out in an attempt to make them conform. Naturally, violence is outlawed in the era so other tactics are utilized. The biggest is to let people know they “do not fit in”. This carries considerable pressure. We all want to be a part of something. Our humanness dictates this. Man (in the species sense) is a social animal. We are designed to interact with other people.

When seeking personal happiness, it is important that we choose a sexual/romantic situation that accommodates us. We need to give ourselves the freedom to make the proper choice. If being married and living in a monogamous relationship works for you, follow that path. However, if something else is more to your nature, it is best to follow that. A word of caution: it is often difficult to be true to your decision. There will be a number of people who will attempt to influence you. This will be done with the claim that they want you to be happy. Of course, they operate under the presumption that they know what is best for you. You are the only one who can make this decision.

Here’s is a common example. I once worked with a guy who knew that he was cut out for the swinger lifestyle. Throughout his dating career, he was in numerous long-term, monogamous relationships. He told me that he was not happy in those situations even though the women were wonderful. They were ideal candidates for married life. Unfortunately for them, he was not. After some research, he realized that another lifestyle fit him better. He consciously chose to pursue it. Until he met that “special” someone. She was ideal in all manners except that she was not interested in swinging. As you can guess, issues arose. We talked on a number of different occasions about this. In the end, he had to let her go. Neither of them would enjoy happiness engaging in the other’s lifestyle. Ultimately he did find someone who was pursuing the same interests as him. Today, they are very happy together.

In summary, be mindful of the choices you make with your life. Understand there was a lot of conditioning that influenced you. Society has a way of training us to behave in certain ways. Resist the temptation to go against your core. If another path sits better with you, follow it. Your happiness rests upon the decisions that you make. Even though those closest to you will have their opinions and judgments, they do not live your life. It is your responsibility to make live a rich and full life.



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john lewis asked:

The world today perceives the word lifestyle as a euphemistic connotation to the concept of swinging. This is due to the presence of lifestyle resorts that provide the reality of swinging in the form of clothing optional vacations and cruises.

Swinging is one of the reality in the present world with the global mindset now being quite receptive to the concept of swinging. The days when this term was a taboo one, are long gone. Lifestyle resorts have been responsible for this change by bringing out new vacation offers and ideas (all of which are centred on the activity of sensual experimentation).

However, there are also lifestyle oriented resorts that are family oriented and, therefore, seek to provide that good old family vacation but aided with all the modern and, therefore, luxurious amenities of life.

This duality has worked wonders and, therefore, both the types are receiving visitors in phenomenal numbers. The features that are given by lifestyle resorts that aim to take couples back to that colour garden being coined as Eden are based on this very aspect.

Hence, there are many themes that are laced into the otherwise stereotypical facilities. Every facility is, therefore, well known but also different and unknown at the same time. A good example would be a beach party.

All the conventional resorts offer beach parties with lots of food, drink and music. However, the difference (in the features given by the former type of lifestyle resorts) is visible in those dancing ***** bodies which are vested with enthusiastic and laughing faces. All these happen in starlit nights which make the atmosphere all the more sensuous.

Lifestyle is, therefore, given multiple perceptions all over the world in the form of sensuous and lavish resorts, different mindsets and also different modes and styles of living.

It would have be quite a pleasant surprise for Mr. Alfred Alder, the Austrian psychologist, upon finding the ways and means in which his coined word has been perceived.

The world is home to many wonderful and funny things but all of them are nevertheless the harbourers of the much needed element called happiness. Lifestyle resorts are one of those things and are, therefore, doing quite a good deed by bringing smiles on many faces.

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john lewis asked:

Swinger lifestyle was a part of the American society, and came into its peak during the Second World War. The major part of the society following this was pilots as it was not possible for them and their wives to accompany them on every posting.

Earlier, swinger advertisements were published in magazines and newspapers, from where people gathered information about this lifestyle.

Slowly and gradually, this lifestyle was being loved by people, and even welcomed with warmth. This lifestyle is nothing more than a strong communication as one should feel free and comfortable to talk about each other’s feeling.

A good communication would land up in good swinging moods.

People enjoying such lifestyle find themselves free from frustration and their lost love. It’s an activity to fulfil sexual desires by receiving and providing pleasure. Henceforth, people who are very possessive for their life partners must not try it out of jealousy. This lifestyle should not be entered unwillingly.

People think this lifestyle gives liberty to open mindedness and freedom of expressing their sexual life. Some think it is the best way to explore sexual life as one do not has to stick to any rules and regulations.

For some persons, this lifestyle adds up to the advantage of bisexuality. People can even find partners of the same *** and go for variation in sexual acts. There are certain clubs and pubs where such activities are being promoted.

It is a natural evolution if people want to swap their life partners, girlfriends and lovers. One may find it worth enjoying seeing his /her partner having *** with the other.

For one’s who really want to have some good time and indulge themselves in such lifestyle can go for them searching online. There are many sites which allow you to chat with these people and you can decide whether to go for it or not.

Now, due to e-browsing one can easily involve himself in such societies without rendering here and there. There are many online sites which are there to help one. Even one can gather a lot more knowledge and engage themselves in such pleasurable experiences.

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David Kamau asked:

There are many myths and misconceptions around swing lifestyles (or simply “swinging”). Just what is swinging about and who are the so so-called swingers?

Swinging can be defined as the act of sharing yourself and your spouse with another couple, or other couples, with the full knowledge of all involved. It is the participants of this lifestyle who are referred to as swingers.

There quite a few myths and misconception about swinging and swingers. One common misconception is that swinging is the definition of swinging as “wife swapping.” This definition is inaccurate in that it does not explain to explain the full range of sexual activities that swinging encompasses. It also gives the impression of a male-favored activity, which too is inaccurate as swinging involves full participation of both partners.

Another common misconception is that swingers are older couples who are bordering on being *********. The swing lifestyle is composed of people of all ages, including ordinary next-door types who exemplify marital happiness.

In fact, one of the requirements for people seeking to join a swinger’s group or party is that the couple must be reasonably happy in their marriage. The reason for this is that swinging should not be used as an escape from or alternative to an unhappy relationship.

Most people find it inconceivable that one would allow his/her partner to have casual *** with another person, stranger or not. But to swingers, this is an acceptable form of social recreation.

Swing lifestyles and activities are as broad and varied as are swingers. They include:

1. Soft swinging: Also known as soft swap, this is doing everything with another person except sexual ***********. Usually they will stop at the last minute and switch back to their original partner. At this point they might choose to have *** with their own partner in front of the other people. Most first-time swingers begin this way.

2. Open swinging: This is when the couples swap (know as full swap) and actually have sexual *********** in the same room or on the same bed. This includes threesomes, orgies, exhibitionism, voyeurism and anything in between.

3. Closed swinging: Usually a full swap, but sexual *********** takes place in separate rooms. This is for those who feel the need for more freedom or don’t like interruptions. This type of swing is mainly practiced by the more experienced couples, as a higher degree of trust is essential.

Why do they do it? Why would anyone want to be a swinger? Well, the reasons are as varied as the couples themselves.

One reason is the need to explore sexual fantasies without having to “cheat” on one’s partner. Maybe they just want variety in their *** lives, or good old fun. The couple may have married too young and never had a chance to “sow their wild oats.” And so on.

Does this mean that the couples never feel any jealousy? This is the biggest hurdle to overcome, especially in the beginning. Not all couples go through with it. A number of those who stick with it say that jealousy actually makes them even more sexually charged up, as well as creates deeper interest in their mates.

Some swingers claim that it is the actual giving or “letting go” in order to make the partner happy that is the essence of this lifestyle.

Obviously, not all couples can be swingers (this writer is not one) and this article is not about asking you to become one. As with anything else, swing lifestyles do carry certain liabilities and risks, which are subject of another article.

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john lewis asked:

Luxuries are an essential part of a decent mode of living and this is bound to be seen by all those who take lifestyle holidays in any one of the lifestyle resorts that are present all over the world.

A swimming pool in a lifestyle resort can be the place for fun which has to be felt in order to be believed. Then the restaurants that are present in lifestyle resorts offer a wide range of cuisines ranging from Mexican, Chinese to Italian and Indian.

Hence, when it comes to having good food, one can believe about having a good ‘munching’ and ’sipping’ time during one’s lifestyle holiday in a lifestyle resort.

Suites, rooms with direct views of the ocean, Caribbean rooms with thatched roofs etc. are some of the varied type of accommodations that one can find in a lifestyle resort.

Therefore, lifestyle holidays provide luxurious facilities as far as eating and staying are concerned. However, these are not the only jewels adorning the crown of features of lifestyle resorts.

There are many more features that make up the wonderful essence of going on lifestyle holidays. Being pampered is one of them and this is done through the provision of facilities like aroma therapy, body massage and body wraps.

Then most of the lifestyle resorts also provide the facility of spas and private beaches. Some of them also organise all-night parties for their guests. Actually, this feature is present in almost all of the lifestyle resorts in the world today.

When it comes to indoor sports, most of the resorts also have pool tables with outdoor sports also being encouraged in the form of tennis courts and scuba diving and snorkelling.

Hence, anyone can have a good time hitting a ‘forehand’ or a ‘backhand’ in a tennis court. Then he or she can also get the cue ball to spin and bounce on top of one ball and hit another one to send it whizzing into the pocket.

The vast mysteries of the ocean can also be investigated either by snorkelling (a light investigation) and scuba diving (a more detailed and, therefore, lengthy form of discussion).

Hence, there are many things to do in lifestyle holidays with the result that these holidays are being taken by lots of persons in the world.

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Debbie King asked:

“I want to feeeeeel you.” This sentiment is something that, if you are a guy, you have said numerous times, and if you are a girl, you have heard a million times as an excuse for not using a condom during your most intimate encounters together. Having *** au naturale is and always will be the best, but when you want to prevent an unplanned pregnancy and avoid a definitely unwanted sexually transmitted disease, using condoms is the only way to go, or cum…

LifeStyles SKYN condoms are the first premium condoms made from Polyisoprene—a scientifically formulated, new non-latex material that really does feel like you are wearing nothing at all. This is great news for all of those **** cats, whether male or female, who are allergic to latex condoms. Now, there is no excuse for not wearing a condom, which is one of the most effective forms of birth control that also prevents sexually transmitted diseases. Made out of a non-latex material, these SKYN condoms are so thin that you really do feel like you are wearing only your birthday suit. You and your partner will be able to celebrate every sensation you want to feel during *********** because these condoms are ultra thin and have been scientifically proven to enhance the ****** experience.

If you know you are allergic to latex or you don’t want to take the chance since a fear of breaking out in your privates while in the throes of passion (can you imagine?) is just too unthinkable, these LifeStyles SKYN condoms may be just for you. They do not contain any natural rubber latex yet they are still totally effective. They feel super thin on and protect like all LifeStyles condoms.

As you know, LifeStyles is a name that you can trust when it comes to condoms. Even though condoms are designed for use with someone, each SKYN condom is tested individually to ensure maximum effectiveness for you and your partner. Put through an electronic test, SKYN condoms meet U.S. Safety & Reliability standards, every time, or they never make it to you. So, if you use them properly, LifeStyles SKYN condoms can be your most reliable form of protection. And they’ll feel oh so good while you are doing it.

So, with SKYN condoms, guys are totally taken care of—these condoms are super thin for an incredibly natural feel and made of a non-latex material for those with allergies. Some girls may think that condoms feel too dry to use every time they get it on. LifeStyles considered this too so they made SKYN condoms lubricated to satisfy the ladies, as well. The lubrication on SKYN condoms makes them extra smooth for thrusting—for him and her, so everyone can feel ecstatic with sexual pleasure.

LifeStyles claims that their ultra thin, polyisoprene non-latex SKYN condoms are the closest thing to wearing nothing. Try them out and you be the judge. We know you’ll love them.

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Eddie Delgado asked:


A swinger’s lifestyle is not a lifestyle for everyone. It is not your typical relationship or choice. A swinger lifestyle for a married couple is something that has to be a mutual desire on both parts. It is a lifestyle where trust issues, jealousy issues and insecurity issues may not come into play. Therefore, respect, unselfishness, support and communications must always be a key factor in your relationship at all times. There is no room for confusion, instability or doubt because it can ruin your relationship.

If you finally decide this is a lifestyle for you, then this lifestyle should be an enrichment of your marriage and partnership. Everything must be discussed and agreed upon before the actual encounter. The discussion should be based on each of your individual fantasies, needs and desires. Communication is a key factor always. Be open to any questions and answers that may be brought up and be prepared to answer then truthfully. One of these questions may be, why do you want to swing? Take your time in answering. It takes time to become totally comfortable with the whole idea.  Always remember that pushing someone that you love into doing something that they are not comfortable with may cost you your marriage.

You should first, go to a swingers club. There is always less pressure in a social gathering where this lifestyle is totally acceptable. This is a much safer and less stressful way to “get your feet wet” with the lifestyle. Here you will see and talk to people who have your same ideals and fantasies. Your first visit may only be to watch couples engage in group ***.  It may take several months of “just watching” before you actually participate in the swinging. In any case, this experience will be extremely important for the newbie couple.

Just remember that swinging is a way of life, not just a fad.



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john lewis asked:


The word lifestyle is given many meanings in many countries with all of them being miles apart from one another. The meanings also reflect the overlying culture of the countries and the outlook of the inhabitants of these countries.

However, a global culture of pleasure and fun is now being epitomised with the word lifestyle. This is being done with the lifestyle resorts that are now being set up with an enthusiasm that equals the one displayed by a ‘harrowing gale’.

Lifestyle resorts are places that can provide wonderful holidays to families, couples and even single individuals. These are places which feature the primary exclusion of ‘rules’.

Time, therefore, dwells in solitude in these resorts which do all that they can in their attempt to provide their guests with some of the most exquisite vacations ever.

Fantastic rooms with a furnishing that resembles the grand and lavish dwellings of the Greek gods in mount Olympus, cuisines belonging to each and every corner in this world along with the some of the most ambitious cocktails are some of the wonderful but routine features of these resorts.

Lifestyle resorts also provide exclusive vacations for couples and also for individuals. These resorts are differentiated from their ‘cousins’ by virtue of their unique features and facilities which are quite innovative.

One can do many things in a lifestyle resort or one can just relax and do nothing at all. However, being comfortable in the most wonderful way feasible is the common feature in either of the endeavours.

Hence, exploring the coral reefs while out on a snorkelling or a scuba diving trip are some of the wonderful activities that one can do. Then one can also have a ’slow’ and a ’smooth’ time while sprawling over a ‘beach chair’ and taking a sip from a chilled pewter of beer.

The lifestyles of the tourists in these resorts are, therefore, some of the most luxurious ones in the world. These resorts are located all over the world in different locations. They have their official websites; however, information about these resorts is also available on lots of other websites as well.

Hence, if one is still to come face to face with the overall excellence of  lifestyle resorts then these websites should be visited. Most of these websites also provide contact information along with the know-how about what exactly are lifestyle resorts.



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john lewis asked:


Are you fed up with the world of broken love relations? If yes, then how about a lifestyle that’s away from emotional attachments. A relation that fulfills your needs for sexual desire without trapping you in the web of responsibilities and commitments, thus the swinger lifestyle provides you with such a liberal environment.

Everyone wither single or married can become a part of the sexually liberal environment. Hence, all you need is a willingness to join the group of swingers and indulge into adult fun. If you are a single man, then you are free to venture into the lifestyle but a single woman must be physically and mentally ready to indulge into sexual acts with unknown individuals.

However, a desirous couple must talk to their partners about various issues like loyalty and jealousy before joining a swinger group. Moreover, you should never compel your partner to indulge into the swinger activities because any mishappening or rejection can spoil your marital relationships. Moreover, you should be very clear about your swinger passions and desires.

Hence, if you and your partner are comfortable with this practical environment, then you must join a social networking site or a club that lets you meet other swinger couples and singles. Initially, you can start up with making swinger friends online, so that you can share your sexual desires with them. This social interaction will make you comfortable towards the swinger lifestyle.

Moreover, a swinger club conducts various activities that can meet your desire needs. You can also test your fascination towards similar *** by indulging into ********** activities. If you are a swinger couple, then you can enjoy group *** or wife swapping activities. Thus, the lifestyle provides you with all sexual liberties and doesn’t restrict you in a bounded relation.

Hence, if you are sexually explicit couples then join the group of avid-swingers and enjoy a socially liberal lifestyle.



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