David Kamau asked:


Alternative lifestyle can be defined as a mode of living or doing something in a way that is not within the accepted norms or values. Adult alternative lifestyle is simply an unusual sexual lifestyle.

Some activities considered adult alternative lifestyles include:

1. BDSM: This stands for ******* and Discipline (B&D), Domination and Submission (D&S), and Sado-Masochism (S&M). As the definition suggests, **** involves bondage, that is restraining or being restrained, domination as well as submission, ****** (taking pleasure in inflicting pain on another person) and ********* (taking pleasure in being subjected to a certain degree of pain).

2. Swinging: This can be defined as a form of recreational social and sexual activity between consenting adults whereby partner swapping is acceptable. Swinging is also referred to as “wife swapping”, but this definition is inaccurate as it narrows down the activity and makes it look like a male domain. “Partner swapping” may be a simpler but more accurate description.

3. Sexual Fetishism: The arousal and/or gratification through some object, or non-genital part of the body. Such object or body part is referred to as the ******. ******** include but are not limited to shoes (boots or high-hills), feet or digits of the foot, hair, underclothes or lingerie, body piercing, clothing (size, garment-type or size), stockings, etc.

4. Polyamory: This is the practice of having more than one intimate relationship at a time, with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. In polyamory there is no partner swapping, as opposed to swinging where swapping is the norm. Polyamorous relationships are usually serious and long term.

Why do people pursue adult alternative lifestyles and relationships? The answers are as many as the individuals. But one that tends to go across the board is- you guessed it- fun. Another reason is fulfillment of sexual fantasies.

There are many more forms and variations of sexual alternative lifestyles than can fit in this article, as well as sub-groupings of the same. For example, ******* as in the B in **** can be considered as a lifestyle on its own.

It is not uncommon for alternative lifestyles to overlap. For example, at a swinger’s party (an alternative lifestyle), one person may be getting a body part pierced (a fetish), a man may be receiving a ******** while restrained in chains (BDSM) from a woman in leather garments and boots (dress or shoe fetish), while a polyamorous trio (an alternative lifestyle) may be joined by another couple for a sexual activity.

Thinking of exploring your alternative, fantasy or ******? There are dating sites specifically dedicated to adult alternative lifestyle, where people of like interests get to meet.



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john lewis asked:

The world today perceives the word lifestyle as a euphemistic connotation to the concept of swinging. This is due to the presence of lifestyle resorts that provide the reality of swinging in the form of clothing optional vacations and cruises.

Swinging is one of the reality in the present world with the global mindset now being quite receptive to the concept of swinging. The days when this term was a taboo one, are long gone. Lifestyle resorts have been responsible for this change by bringing out new vacation offers and ideas (all of which are centred on the activity of sensual experimentation).

However, there are also lifestyle oriented resorts that are family oriented and, therefore, seek to provide that good old family vacation but aided with all the modern and, therefore, luxurious amenities of life.

This duality has worked wonders and, therefore, both the types are receiving visitors in phenomenal numbers. The features that are given by lifestyle resorts that aim to take couples back to that colour garden being coined as Eden are based on this very aspect.

Hence, there are many themes that are laced into the otherwise stereotypical facilities. Every facility is, therefore, well known but also different and unknown at the same time. A good example would be a beach party.

All the conventional resorts offer beach parties with lots of food, drink and music. However, the difference (in the features given by the former type of lifestyle resorts) is visible in those dancing ***** bodies which are vested with enthusiastic and laughing faces. All these happen in starlit nights which make the atmosphere all the more sensuous.

Lifestyle is, therefore, given multiple perceptions all over the world in the form of sensuous and lavish resorts, different mindsets and also different modes and styles of living.

It would have be quite a pleasant surprise for Mr. Alfred Alder, the Austrian psychologist, upon finding the ways and means in which his coined word has been perceived.

The world is home to many wonderful and funny things but all of them are nevertheless the harbourers of the much needed element called happiness. Lifestyle resorts are one of those things and are, therefore, doing quite a good deed by bringing smiles on many faces.

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David Kamau asked:

There are many myths and misconceptions around swing lifestyles (or simply “swinging”). Just what is swinging about and who are the so so-called swingers?

Swinging can be defined as the act of sharing yourself and your spouse with another couple, or other couples, with the full knowledge of all involved. It is the participants of this lifestyle who are referred to as swingers.

There quite a few myths and misconception about swinging and swingers. One common misconception is that swinging is the definition of swinging as “wife swapping.” This definition is inaccurate in that it does not explain to explain the full range of sexual activities that swinging encompasses. It also gives the impression of a male-favored activity, which too is inaccurate as swinging involves full participation of both partners.

Another common misconception is that swingers are older couples who are bordering on being *********. The swing lifestyle is composed of people of all ages, including ordinary next-door types who exemplify marital happiness.

In fact, one of the requirements for people seeking to join a swinger’s group or party is that the couple must be reasonably happy in their marriage. The reason for this is that swinging should not be used as an escape from or alternative to an unhappy relationship.

Most people find it inconceivable that one would allow his/her partner to have casual *** with another person, stranger or not. But to swingers, this is an acceptable form of social recreation.

Swing lifestyles and activities are as broad and varied as are swingers. They include:

1. Soft swinging: Also known as soft swap, this is doing everything with another person except sexual ***********. Usually they will stop at the last minute and switch back to their original partner. At this point they might choose to have *** with their own partner in front of the other people. Most first-time swingers begin this way.

2. Open swinging: This is when the couples swap (know as full swap) and actually have sexual *********** in the same room or on the same bed. This includes threesomes, orgies, exhibitionism, voyeurism and anything in between.

3. Closed swinging: Usually a full swap, but sexual *********** takes place in separate rooms. This is for those who feel the need for more freedom or don’t like interruptions. This type of swing is mainly practiced by the more experienced couples, as a higher degree of trust is essential.

Why do they do it? Why would anyone want to be a swinger? Well, the reasons are as varied as the couples themselves.

One reason is the need to explore sexual fantasies without having to “cheat” on one’s partner. Maybe they just want variety in their *** lives, or good old fun. The couple may have married too young and never had a chance to “sow their wild oats.” And so on.

Does this mean that the couples never feel any jealousy? This is the biggest hurdle to overcome, especially in the beginning. Not all couples go through with it. A number of those who stick with it say that jealousy actually makes them even more sexually charged up, as well as creates deeper interest in their mates.

Some swingers claim that it is the actual giving or “letting go” in order to make the partner happy that is the essence of this lifestyle.

Obviously, not all couples can be swingers (this writer is not one) and this article is not about asking you to become one. As with anything else, swing lifestyles do carry certain liabilities and risks, which are subject of another article.

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